Yesterday, I painted with a class of second graders. They were little bundles of captured
energy. Their eyes sparkled and
they could not be quiet. The
majority of the class finished the project early and a detail oriented few
painstakingly completed theirs. So
I offered to tell the restless ones a story. It was a classic tale of mirrors, apples and coffins made of
glass. I finished in the customary
way. Their voices joined mine in
the refrain, “They lived happily ever after.”
Life may be filled with great happiness; but often holds an
equal measure of sorrow. Life
becomes a story, and every story ends.
On Tuesday January 29th-Wednesday January 30th, I
attended C-TAC (Coalition to Transform Advanced Care) National Summit on AdvancedCare in Washington, DC. The
meeting was held at the Institute of Medicine National Academy of Sciences building
at 2101 Constitution Avenue. The building is a lovely Art Nouveau edifice. The foyer and the marble hall are
bedecked with stunning mosaics, carefully maintained murals and early 20th
century woodwork. The
remodeled auditorium is a modern, almost clinical design juxtaposed against the
rich warm texture of the rest of the building. I thought it the perfect venue for our topic of conversation.
When I arrived, I asked where I could set up my easel and
paints. The C-TAC volunteers
looked concerned. Although, I had
been invited to attend and exchanged emails with the event planner, they had
forgotten this detail. My friends
Ted Eytanhttps://twitter.com/tedeytan and Alex Drane assisted me in finding someone who could determine an
appropriate place to paint. Soon
we were talking to one of the facility directors. She looked worried and said she would have to clear this
request.
She left us and we conversed quietly. She soon returned to tell us the good
news: I could paint if I stayed in the marble floored great hall. The bad news: I could not hear the
speakers from the hall. So I spent
the next two days ducking in and out of the auditorium listening for content,
live tweeting remarks and then painting the memory of the day.
The conference day was well underway by the time I began to
paint and tweet. The topic of the
conference was advanced illness care. "Advanced Care" is a new
euphemism for “End of Life,” which really confused me at first, because I
thought it was some kind of gifted and talented version of healthcare. As a child who struggled through
grade school, AP classes were always out of reach. I did mange to be in some honors classes though. Honor courses encouraged deep insight,
rather than high scores.
At 9:30 am the panel presentations began with “Care Journey:
Personal Reflections on Advanced Care.”
Amanda Bennett from Bloomberg News told us about her
husband’s 7 years battling kidney cancer.
I listened intrigued.
Our family only had 3 months after the diagnosis of my husband Fred’s
kidney cancer. I began to paint
with our stories entwined.
I painted the two kidneys, the inferior vena cava and the
descending aorta as two trees in winter; a tree of life and a tree of knowledge
reminding us of a bargain struck so long ago. To the right I painted Amanda’s experience with her husband’s
sickness and death. He died
experiencing over-treatment, with blood draws and tests until the end. I painted Amanda retreating within her
visitor’s chair, completely nude and vulnerable as the machine of medicine
chewed upon their life. A resident
stands hesitatingly preparing to tell her the end will come soon.
To the left our family story unfolds.
Fred spent two months on the roller
coaster of curative care and one month in the blessed embrace of hospice
care. He lies upon his bed as we
gaze at each other. Our three-year-old son Isaac plays with a toy train beside
his Father’s deathbed.
Above within the branches of the tree, a nest is perched
where the heart resides. Within
the nest a newborn babe searches for the eyes he can trust, the eyes that see
the soul. As Brad Stuart fromSutter Care at Home reminded the crowd.
We end as we begin, our eyes searching for the ones we love.
I spent the lunch hour painting as folks looked over with
curious stares. One lovely young
woman came over to tell me she worked in Health Information Technology and was
so glad to see someone she recognized from the world of HIT at this event. I said I understood and wished that were
more of us with attending meetings in HIT, End of Life and Patient Safety.
Soon Danielle Turnipseed from IOM (Institute of Medicine) came
over to the easel while I was talking with Ted Eytan. I told her I hoped to be
at Health Data Palooza in June but that would depend on creating a patient
registration rate. She
commiserated with us. Our talk led
to mutual enjoyment of the walking meeting. I said,“OH, I have an idea!!! We could have walking meetings
with patients at Health Data Palooza!!! It could be cool! Sort of like walking speed-dating
between patients and tech folks!” Daniele assured me she would bring
the idea back to the planning committee.
Soon I left for to pick up Isaac from school and returned on
Wednesday for day two.
Our first
keynote speaker was Kathy Greenlee, Assistant Secretary for Aging and
Administrator for Community Living US Dept. of Health and Human Services. She spoke about the work of her office
and encouraged all in attendance to come by and meet with her about this
important topic.
Wednesday’s first panel was entitled “Empowering the Public
to Make Informed Decisions and Plans” Alex Drane was the moderator. By this
point I had seen several panel presentations with speakers seated at a black
fabric covered table and each keynote speaker was peering over a colossal
podium. I was getting frustrated that we were only seeing half of their bodies
and often half of the energy of a speaker without such physical shields.
TED and TEDMED have figured this out;
we bare our soul when we speak with our whole bodies. A seated speaker is only telling half of the story. Then I began to wonder if this
presentation choice was not some grand metaphor. For this was a conference about end of life but rarely did I
hear the word death mentioned. So
on the barren field I painted a seated panel. Their covered table is a coffin. Most of the speakers exist as a torso above the covered
table, but the angle is such that the last speaker to the right reveals his
lower body is a skeleton. Our
surface discussion may not contain the word death but it lingers beneath.
As I stared upon this panel, Alex Drane told us a lovely
story from that morning. Her
daughter had discovered that Alex has a cell phone that she will always
answer. Her daughter called her
and after a pause asked, “What time is it where you are?” Like many of us who speak about the
future of healthcare Alex flies across the nation empowering others. Hours as well as miles often divide her
family.
Alex smiled and said, “It is 7:20 here.” There was silence on the line as her
daughter did some quick mental math.
Soon she responded with a joyful voice, “It is 7:20 here too!”
This painting has a name: “It is 7:20 here.”
And it is.
We are living in this moment and there is no better time to
talk about our wishes with the ones we love.
So in the foreground of this piece two clock faces look upon
each other. Each says 7:20 and the
hands that depict the time are the hands of Alex and her daughter. The clocks also represent the stylized
bulb of an onion. For as Alex’s
daughter could surely tell you “Onions have layers” as does our conversation of
this day.
So in the spooling circles above our clock faces there are
pennies.
For throughout this
conversation about the care of those we love there is a thread shines like the
sheen of money. Did you know it
now costs more to make a penny than what a penny is worth? And so it goes at the end of life, when
often a life is extended not for the benefit of the patient but for the pocket
of another.
Within the twinning branches pills have become leaves like a
pharmaceutical Klimt piece. The
copper pills are the Sutent that extended Amanda’s husband’s life and sit
within a shadow box in mine.
Soon beautiful Amy Berman (nurse and Senior Program Manager
at the Hartford Foundation) began to speak, her hair a golden halo. Her face serene as she told us she lived
under a death sentence. She has
stage four inflammatory breast cancer.
This type spreads quickly throughout the body. When Amy noticed it, it looked just like an inflamed patch upon her skin. But it had already spread throughout
her body. She was stage four
and there is no successful treatment available. Her oncologist began to explain an incredibly aggressive
course. There would be a
mastectomy; chemotherapy, radiation and they would fight for every hour of her
extended life. She looked at the
doctor and enquired, “Why a mastectomy when the cancer has already
spread?” He looked at her
nonplussed and replied, “You don’t want to look at it do you?”
Amy could not believe it. He was recommending cosmetic oncology.
He further added this was the course of treatment he would
recommend to any of his patients.
But Amy was not “anybody” and she did not want cookie cutter
recommendations or a life that was lived in more pain than was necessary. Amy wanted to live to her fullest and
then wanted a Niagara Falls. In
end stage cancer, patients make a choice. They can choose aggressive care and
plummet down a step vertical and then float on a horizontal of lingering pain
before death. Or then can live
life on the fast-paced stream without added nausea and pain until they plunge
down at once as the end nears.
I painted Amy in her Niagara Falls moment as the wind whips
her patient gown around her body. Her stance is sure within her half-barrel and
her face upraised to greet her choice with open arms. As I painted it thus, one attendee said, “I thought the
barrels used at Niagara were full barrels.” I responded, “Full barrels are used
by those who think they might survive the fall.”
Soon Bill Hanley from Twin Cities Public Radio spoke. He followed Kent Wilson from Honoring
Choices Minnesota. They both spoke
of the amazing program Honoring Choices and the teachable moments that arrive
when PBS works hand in hand with hospitals to create a safe place for
conversations about end of life.
This is my second time to see them speak and I represented their great work
with a tombstone beside our heart tree.
That should have been the end of the panel, but Alex had
offered me two minutes to speak. I
have never spoken before about a painting that was only half-finished, but
perhaps that was perfect time to speak about this painting. It continues the
metaphor of the half-told tale. We
will never make the strides we need to make in end of life care until we value
the end like we value the beginning; until we see hospice cards in the Hallmark
isle as much as we see cards that welcome new babies.
I stood upon the stage and explained the painting was a
landscape and it was set in winter.
I went on to tell the crowd that I taught preschoolers watercolor
landscape for 7 years. I would
say, “See the top of the painting is the sky, the bottom is the ground. See
where they seem to meet, that is the horizon line!” We would start off painting summer because that was easy and
filled with blues and greens. Then
fall with its yellows and reds and leaves falling. Then we would paint winter and the colors are dark and the
trees have no leaves and everything is dead. And this is where many teachers stop when they teach the
seasons.
But we would stop at
spring; we would stop with cherry blossoms.
I told them that the painting was inspired by the twining of
Amanda Bennett’s story and my own.
She suffered so, as did her husband with no time to say goodbye. We had the better death at home with
friends and family. My husband and
I spoke all night the night before he died back when I thought terminal
restlessness was just a Tom Hanks film.
Then I glanced over to Alex and said, “I had been asked say
something moving in two minutes and I don’t know if I did, but my husband was able
to. He said goodbye to his sons by
performing a puppet show in hospice.
This past fall we marched in the Million Puppet March in Washington DC
in Support of PBS. In support of
all that PBS does to educate us.
We carried signs with pictures of my husband in hospice and told folks
all about Honoring Choices in Minnesota.” I told them that is what this is all about. We can say goodbye with puppets and
remember the promise of cherry blossoms.
I painted for the rest of the day with people coming over
often to chat. One was Amy. We
hugged and laughed because we were wearing almost identical outfits! As she said we were sisters from another
mother.
Soon we broke into sessions. I went to the Interfaith Workgroup on Spirituality. They are looking for suggestions on how
to move things forward. I
volunteered the power of the twitterverse to help the cause.
So feel free to join the conversation!
That supper, with no prompting from me, my seven-year-old son
Isaac told me he wants the Star Wars Imperial March to play at his funeral. He
also wants a graveside service.
I responded, “I want to donate my body to science and then
that is usually followed by cremation. So I won’t have a grave.” His eyebrows rose and he said, "You
don't want a tombstone?" I responded, "Nope." He replied
"Well, there will be no crayon rubbings of your tombstone then." And proceeded
to eat his macaroni.
Now, was that so hard?
